When we consciously make the effort to attack our human flaws as if they were viruses, (because they are), we will start to have a complication in our lives and find peace in our divine maturity, instead of the egoic, immature chaos in self.
God created time so that we could have plenty of it to learn our divine purpose in this earthly experience; time allows us to mature through discovering negative patterns that keep us in the ego.
The basic drill follows like this: (to gain maturity)
- Identify our reactive behavior (wrong thinking)
- Examine the reasons for its repetition; what are the triggers
- Move to consciously correct our behavior with help from introspection (our spirit) and achieve ‘right’ thinking
- Seek help if we can’t move beyond the correction
(It may be that you need outside assistance, i.e. another’s helping hand or even professional help. It is ‘right’ minded to recognize this too.)
We need to forgive ourselves by recognizing that the things we have done were not from the spiritual driven mind, but rather the ego-self-body mind: the selfish. When we do this, we are able to see that what we have done is producing the wrong effect, in the long run, for the ‘other’ in our life; it will transform the negative actions into positive solutions.
We know the truthful direction to take. Listen to our ‘inner’ voice, the one that is pointing to the Light.
Guilt happens when we go out of our integrity.
If the mother-child experience is negative, the child will live with fear and suspicion, experiencing problems in forming future relationships throughout life. Because the consequences of the mother-child relationship are so critical, it is absolutely imperative that women understand their impending role before they become pregnant. This also means it is essential that the future mother has some modicum of maturity.
The maturity required for motherhood has a spiritual inflection. Her IHood must be capable of unconditional love; she must be consciously inclined in giving to the child rather than the receiving of any self-gratification. She must have the ability to be patient, acknowledge and understand that she, mother alone, may have sole responsibility for this child; to have a demeanor of mental and emotional presence.
The first year of a child’s life is a struggle between trust and mistrust. Our experience with our mothers or mother substitute hinges on the formation of a critical bond, where the mother takes the responsibility for birthing and nurturing her child; the child, in turn, is totally dependent upon the mother for their survival.
In a human environment, the need for a mother to give prolonged care is eminent. The initial months of life are the most physically demanding, requiring a mother to be at hand nearly twenty four hours a day. This is grueling; ask any mother. She has little sleep and is required to give unconditionally to the baby. She learns to interpret the types of cries a child broadcasts: I’m hungry; I’m soiled; I’m sick; I’m just not happy! Eventually the child starts to communicate orally what his needs are, but not without demands and crying. Mothers witness the epitome of immaturity in their children, and must become their unrelenting guides, trying to lead them toward independence and maturity. It is a feverish, frustrating and rewarding process that lasts until the child is in early adulthood.
The first significant relationship that affects us is the one with our mother (or mother substitute). This is the cornerstone of our development, and thus explains why it is so important that mothers themselves, are sufficiently mature to undertake such a responsibility.
We are entirely dependent upon our mothers; they sustain us and keep us safe; they are the source of love that bathes us in complete acceptance of who we are and give us the assurance of her presence whenever she is needed. Dependence is formed and then a trust that we begin to look for in others outside the mother relationship, which we require for all life challenges.
It is absolutely essential that we attain maturity in our formative years in order to moderate our ego, embrace our spirit, and fully evolve to a productive, peaceful life.
Our soul communicates with us through the mind, and awakens in our soul through love; our ego also communicates to us through our mind, but resides in our body.
We may realize that what we think we like, we don’t like at all; what we do with our time is not what we really want to do. We may not be internally aligned with our external behavior. We may also find some unattractive traits that we possess, and we may not be willing to change them. Recognize that they are a part of us, but challenge ourselves to reach our evolvement.
With maturity and motivation, we may find abilities where we thought there were none. Never give up the opportunity to try something new, even if you failed in the past.
Our challenge is to discover the gifts unique to us and give them to those who need them.
The concept of ‘we need more’ is a big mistake we make in our lives.
The journey of growing up and fully reaching maturity presents difficulties that become apparent during our social, physical and psychological changes. As we become aware of “Me,” the struggle silently begins between our ego identity, and our spirituality. Because the body and its needs are dominant at this point in our development, it is apparent that the at-birth spiritual domination is no longer recognized. The spirit never leaves our soul, or IHood, for that matter; it just goes into a waiting period where it is dormant, waiting for its ‘awakening;’ being patient for maturity to catch us up again to the conscious state we had before our birth. The extent to which our maturation is completed successfully determines how quickly we regain our full knowledge of purpose and can then dismiss the unconscious behavior of ego-controlled mind (most of the time). The Eight Stages of Maturation are important in understanding the development of IHood and how we as humans begin to recognize that there is more than ‘me’ in our world. This is when initial recognition of spiritual existence begins.
We are all perfectly capable of seeking more understanding and changing our personal behavior. In our maturity, we can fulfill this mission.